2012 - System-design of Inspiration

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to use the experience of relief as a measure for yes or no living with m.

This I wrote in the last blog about the system-design of peace.
Within this I saw that I am always searching for some relief after searching in myself for an answer. If I 'see the point', there is some relief, and this relief I use as a confirmation that I did the right thing. Within this I belief that there is right and wrong. And this searching in myself for answers becomes an addiction if I do it for the need of this experience of relief. If I don't have this experience of relief, I do not know if I am doing the 'right' thing. Actually I am searching for confirmation of myself within this feeling of relief; this is searching for confirmation for my existence by God, The White Light, The Mind as Inspiration.

Thought:
"If I do not have an experience of relief inside myself after searching for an aswer I do not know if I am right or wrong".

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to think "If I do not have an experience of relief inside myself after searching for an answer I do not know if I am right or wrong".

Trigger-point:
Not being able to make a decision in/as the mind.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to connect not being able to make a decission in/as the mind to the thought "If I do not have an experience of relief inside myself after searching for an answer I do not know if I am right or wrong".
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to let not being able to make a decission in/as the mind exist as a trigger-point within me, which triggers the thought "If I do not have an experience of relief inside myself after searching for an answer I do not know if I am right or wrong".

Type of thought:
Doubt

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to doubt myself by participating in the thought "If I do not have an experience of relief inside myself after searching for an answer I do not know if I am right or wrong".
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to let exist doubt inside myself by participating in the thought "If I do not have an experience of relief inside myself after searching for an answer I do not know if I am right or wrong".

Emotions / Feelings:
Panic (if not confirmed)
Relief (if confirmed)

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to connect the thought "If I do not have an experience of relief inside myself after searching for an answer I do not know if I am right or wrong" to an emotional experience of panic.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to participate in an emotional experience of panic.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to connect the thought "If I do not have an experience of relief inside myself after searching for an answer I do not know if I am right or wrong" to a feeling of relief.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to participate in a feeling of relief.

Why do I connect an emotion of panic or a feeling of relief to the thought "If I do not have an experience of relief inside myself after searching for an answer I do not know if I am right or wrong"?

I believe that I need an affirmation as a feeling of doing the right thing. This indicates that I still believe that I can be right or wrong and that I have to choose between these two options. Right and wrong only exists in the mind. 
If I experience a feeling of relief, I believe that I am right, that I am doing the right thing, that I choose right. Within this I do not need to die (as the mind) because I am right, I am confirmed as life (as the mind) by rightness. This belief that I do not need to die (as the mind) gives a feeling of relief.
If I experience an emotion of panic, I believe that I don't see what the right thing is to do; and this is giving an emotion of panic. Not being confirmed, and within this only me myself who can direct myself. As long as I am living in the mind this directing is difficult, because in the mind there are always two options out of polarity, which is bringing forward a neccesarity to choose. The only real direction is to stop this polarity, which brings to oneness with self, and within this only one direction is left: as Self, as Life.
The stopping of the mind gives the emotional experience of panic because the mind will die in this, and because I believe that I am the mind I experience panic.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I can remain living in and as the mind if I experience this feeling of relief coming forward out of an affirmation in/as the mind as 'being right'.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I have to be right to stay alive.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I die if I am wrong.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to prefer the two options in and as the mind, which is always giving friction, to stay alive above being alive one and equal as myself, which gives only one direction to live as Life as Self.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to prefer friction above oneness and equality out of fear of dying in/as the mind.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to experience panic when I believe that I am going to die in and as the mind.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I am going to die when the polarity as myself in/as the mind stops, instead of seeing that I have never been really alive as Life, so how can I die if I am not really alive?
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I have to feel quilty, coming forward out of a belief that I can be right or wrong, and if I am wrong I feel quilty and if I am right I feel relief because I believe that I am not quilty.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to stay quilty to keep myself as the mind alive, in which I keep myself away from self-responsibility; if I am quilty there is nothing I can do, because I am quilty and already committed to the mind in quiltness, so not able to be responsible as Self.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that there is nothing I can do if/because I believe that I am quilty.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to hold on to the polarity of right and wrong and within this take all the quilt on my shoulders out of fear that if I am not confirmed in as the mind by God/The White Light/The Mind/The Man/Mama as The One, The One will leave me, and if The One leaves me I believe that I will die.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to seperate myself from God/The White Light/The Mind/The Man/Mama as The One, instead of being One with/as mySelf as Life, and within this I am equal as God/The White Light/The Mind/The Man/Mama as The One as Self as Life.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to use The One as God/The White Light/The Mind/The Man/Mama for Inspiration - in positive or negative way - to feel alive, instead of seeing that I as Self am equal and one as Inspiration, as Life itself is inspiring everything equally as Breath.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to affirm myself to be alive in/as the mind to take all the quilt on my shoulders instead of forgiving myself the feelings of quilt and within this taking responsibility for/as Self.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to stop speeking words, as myself or as the mind? out of fear that The One will leave me.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to stop my expression as who I am in any moment, which gives another seperation in/as the mind from myself in/as the mind.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that who speaks the words is responsible, so without speaking words I am not responsible.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I am not responsible without speaking words, instead of seeing that I am always responsible for what I speak and for what I have allowed and accepted to let exist inside myself as the world as thoughts, feelings and emotions.
I forgive myself that I have not allowed and not accepted myself to see that I am responsible for what exists inside myself as as the world as thoughts, feelings and emotions.

Corrective statements:
When and as I see myself participating in thoughts, feelings and emotions, I stop, I breathe. I realize that within participating inside myself in thoughts, feelings and emotions I allow the world to exist as it is in polarity.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to allow the world to exist as it is in polarity by participating inside myself in thoughts, feelings and emotions.
I do not allow myself to allow this world to exist as it is in polarity by participating inside myself in thoughts, feelings and emotions.

When and as I see myself searching for an answer inside myself I stop, I breathe. I realize that as long as I am searching for an answer inside myself I am participating in/as the mind in polarity, and polarity needs an answer to stay alive, otherwise it is no polarity anymore. And so is the mind, it needs an answer as right or wrong to stay alive, otherwise it is not alive anymore.
I realize that within this searching for an answer in polarity - which is actually a searching for confirmation of myself as the mind of being alive - I will not find a real answer as myself as what is best for all. It will only keep me enslaved in/as the mind by giving a feeling of relief when I believe I am right or by keeping on searching for the right answer when I believe that I am wrong.
I do not allow myself to keep myself enslaved to the mind by searching for an answer to give me a feeling of relief when I believe that I am right.
I do not allow myself to keep myself enslaved to the mind by searching for the right answer in as the mind when I believe that I am wrong.

When and as I see myself longing for a feeling of relief by searching for an answer in/as the mind, I stop, I breathe. I realize that I do not need a feeling of relief to affirm myself in as the mind as being alive, because I become one breath more alive by stopping my feelings so by stopping this longing for a feeling of relief. This longing for a feeling of relief will keep me connected to the thought "If I do not have an experience of relief inside myself after searching for an aswer I do not know if I am right or wrong". And this connection to this thought will keep me in polarity, and withion polarity I will always keep on searching for an answer untill I have the 'right answer', to affirm myself as being right by The one as The Mind to experience this feeling of relief. Within this I keep myself enslaved in the circle of death as the mind, biting in my own tail.
I do not allow myself to keep myself alive as the mind in the circle of death.
I stop, I breathe. Within stopping participating in this searching for an answer in/as the mind to affirm myself as being alive, I become alive; breath by breath, each time I stop participating inside myself within a thought, feeling or emotion.

Word:
Relief

noun

1.alleviation, ease, or deliverance through the removal of pain, distress, oppression, etc.

2.a means or thing that relieves pain, distress, anxiety, etc.

3.money, food, or other help given to those in poverty or need.

4.something affording a pleasing change, as from monotony.

5.release from a post of duty, as by the arrival of a substitute or replacement.

No 4 is funny, something affording a pleasing change, as from monotony. 

So the mind needs a change from monotony of repeating itself over and over again, and for this we create a feeling of releif.

Synonyms
1. mitigation, assuagement, comfort. 3.  succor, aid, redress, remedy.

Related forms

re·lief·less, adjective

Synonyms
1. mitigation, assuagement, comfort. 3.  succor, aid, redress, remedy.

Antonyms
1.  intensification.

Word Origin & History

relief

"ease, alleviation," early 14c., from Anglo-Fr. relif, from O.Fr. relief "assistance," lit. "a raising, that which is lifted," from stressed stem of relever (see relieve). Meaning "aid to impoverished persons" is attested from c.1400; that of "deliverance of a besieged town" is from 1540s.

Positive/negative charge:

Positive, as it gives me a break of struggling with the believe in being quilty.

"Oh yeah, I do it right this time; I am not quilty".

New defenition:
Letting go of the limitations of the mind by applying self-forgiveness and self-corrective statements to become able to live in breath.

2012 - system-design of Peace

I feel unsatisfied, ontevreden, not peacefull about the situation I live in.
Vrede (peace) - Ontevreden (unsatisfied).

I believe that peace is dependant of the situation that I live in.
I experience it as unsafe in the house because I am living together with someone who is not self-honest as seeing that his words are about himself, so I got the projections. We all do that, it's nothing new. I also do it to him.
I experience this as being attacked in the house I live in. There is a war going on, there is no peace in the house. Actually it's war, than a little peace, than war, than a little peace. War to create/experience peace? Or actually searching for peace which activates the opposite as war. Which is not constant. The only constant state of peace is silence within myself by stopping the reactions inside myself, by stopping the war inside myself and so the reflections of the war inside myself will stop.
Before I was living alone to find peace while being in the house. Which leads to isolation without the possibility to sort things out within myself, as I do not see my inner war reflected, I only experienced it inside my body as a cramping intestine, the war inside myself, attacking myself.
I am searching for this peace in the house, which is no longer possible. Everytime there is a little 'peace', the next attack is coming, from outside, which gives reactions inside. No silence inside as long as I have reactions, so no real 'peace' if we can still call it that way. I do not accept or allow any excuses anymore, not from myself, not from the other, so no peace of acceptances as things as they are. As long as I have reactions on this, there is no silence inside, which is the only 'real peace' that we can become one and equal as: Silence as one and equal as breath without any reactions as thougts, emotions and feelings. A long way to go.

Thought:
I need peace inside the house I live in as a safe place to stay.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to "need peace inside the house I live in as a safe place to stay".

Trigger-point:
M asking questions that I experience as questions to get my attention to keep the relationship alive.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to connect m asking questions that I experience as questions to get my attention to keep the relationship alive to the thought "I need peace inside the house I live in as a safe place to stay".
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to let exist m asking questions that I experience as questions to get my attention to keep the relationship alive as a trigger-point within me which triggers the thought "I need peace inside the house I live in as a safe place to stay".

Type of thought:
Need
Belief
Fear

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to need peace inside the house I live in as a safe place to stay.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to let exist need inside me by participating within the thought "I need peace inside the house I live in as a safe place to stay".
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I need peace inside the house I live in as a safe place to stay.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to let exist belief inside me by participating within the thought "I need peace inside the house I live in as a safe place to stay".
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear not having a safe place to stay when there is no peace inside the house.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to let exist fear inside me by participating within the thought "I need peace inside the house I live in as a safe place to stay".

Emotion:
Sadness

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to connect the thought "I need peace inside the house I live in as a safe place to stay" to an emotion of sadness.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to participate in an emotional experience of sadness.

Why do I connect an emotion of sadness to the thought "I need peace inside the house I live in as a safe place to stay"?

I feel sad because I don't feel comfortable inside the house anymore. I live in constant fear of being attacked with projections of the mind of m.
I feel sad because I feel unsatisfied about the situation I live in, living with a man who is not able to start being self-honest as he doesnot know what the mind is and I do not have the words translated to speak about it. So the only option is that I take everything back to self and experience the dishonesty and unequality of projections of other people in/as the mind, and my own dishonest reaction to it as if it hurts me.
I feel sad because I was appearantly not able to direct myself into a situation to create a safe environment for myself by living with someone who is seeing into self or otherwise by standing alone and living alone.
I feel sad because I am living with a person that I don't want to live with, and within this I have to give up all desires for a relationship with someone I want to live with.
I feel sad because I do not believe that I am ever able to stand up as myself and feel comfortable with someone around me who is not seeing inside self or even with someone who is seeing inside self.
I feel sad because I see inside myself that I am not able to be comfortable within myself with anybody around; I live in constant fear of being seen or being attacked.
I feel sad because I live the consequence of having sex with a person out of loneliness.
I feel sad because I am not able to stand as myself and live a life that I want in a world that I experience as unsafe, with people that I mostly experience as unsafe which activate the fear inside myself for not being able to speak as myself, to direct myself as self and to have enough money to support myself to live a life alone, supporting myself and others to stand up in this.
I feel sad because I do not experience myself as enough support to live in this situation.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to feel sad because I don't feel comfortable in the house I live in.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not feel comfortable in the house I live in because I live in fear of being attacked by the projections of m.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear the projections of m.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to connect the projections of m to fear, and thus I forgive that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear my own fear.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that the projections of m can harm me.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear my own reactions on the projections of m.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that my reactions on the projections of m are real and for this, I experience pain.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to experience pain because I believe that my reactions on the projections of m are real.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to know that m is not seeing into self which is not the same as seeing it and bringing this knowing into parctical living by saying, no till here no further, I do not allow myself anymore to live in an abusive situation with someone who is not seeing into self.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I need to go through this, that I need to be able to live with someone who is not seeing into self.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not be able to move to another house because I made an appointment with m of starting living here together in the house for at least a year.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I am not able to carry consequenses if I move to another house now because I do not know if this is best for all.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I do not know what is best for all.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to experience this situation I live in absolutely as not best for all as I experience it as horrible and abusive of myself and maybe of m.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to regret to stay here in the house together with m, believing that it was the ´right decision´.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that there exists a right decision.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not want to see that there is only one option that is best for all, because this one option that is best for all I experience as horrible which is not an experience of what is best for me.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that the horrible experience of living in the house with m is real.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to feel betrayed by this living together as what is best for all which makes it hard to believe that this is what is best for all.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to feel betrayed by myself, doing what is best for all created in-as the mind, without taking into consideration that really living it is a complete different story.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to live consequenses of a created best for all in/as the mind, which is honest but not self-honest.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to be not self-honest.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I am self-honest and m not, instead of seeing that I am also not self-honest by living with m in the house out of a mind-idea.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not experience myself as enough support to live in each sitiation I live in.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not experience myself as enough.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I am not able to stand alone as myself in a world that I experience as unsafe because people are not seeing into self, instead of seeing into myself and find out that the words they speak cannot harm me directly as this words are about themselves and my words are about me, so unly my words can really harm myself and this within this the world when they are not spoken in self-honesty by separating myself from self as life.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I am unable to live together with a pertson who is or is not seeing inside self.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I am unable to live with myself when seeing myself reflected in a person who is seeing or not seeing into self.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to feel so very stupid of starting living in the house with m while I knew that he is not seeing into self.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to judge myself as being stupid of starting living in the house with m, instead of seeing that in every moment of decisison I decided that it was in that moment the best to do to give it a chance to investigate living together.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to blame myself to be with someone who is not seeing into self, and to not allow myself in this to be just satisfied with the situation as it is, which is a starting point from where things can change.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not allow myself to change by not accepting the situation as its is in the moment; within this I fight with myself about the situation instead of changing myself in a way that is supportive for myself and others.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fight with myself about the situation I live in which prevent me from changing myself.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to use the situation I live in as a backdoor to not need to change as myself.I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself tosee it as a crime to start living with someone who is not seeing into self.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself tosee it as a crime to live with myself while I am not seeing into self in totality.
I forgive myself that I have not allowed and not accepted myself to admit to myself that I am so very tired of living alone, running away and trying to be perfect.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that m is not good enough for me to live with.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I can have better than m.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to see myself as better than m, in which I seperate myself from m and from myself.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to see the man I live with as a measure of what I am capable of, and living with m is disappointing me as I thought that I would never live with a man like m.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not know what is wrong with a man like m.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to live with a man that I am not sure of that I want to live with, and that is something that I promised to myself, that I would never live with a man that I am not 100% sure of, so in this I break my promise to myself.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that the promise I made to myself of not living with someone that I am not sure of is reality, instead of seeing that I made this promise in and as the mind, which cannot be trusted.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to betray myself in and as the mind.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to feel inferior because I betrayed myself in and as the mind by starting to live with someone I am not 100% sure of.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to feel inferior because I started living with someone I am not 100% sure of.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that a promis is real, instead of seeing that a promise is always made in and as the mind to give an experience of safety in an unsafe world which living in and as the mind is.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to partly live with m because practical it is more easy as he is physical stronger than I am and capable to do heavy practical things.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to blame myself for using this practical reason as a reason to live with m in the same house.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to feel weak by experiencing that I am not able to do all practical things in the house by myself.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to promise myself that I will never use other reasons to be with a man than.....yeah than what? What was always my startingpoint of living with a man?
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to use feelings for the man as a startingpoint of living with a man.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to make a promise to myself that I will never live with a man who's smell I don't like in any moment and who is snoring.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to experience disgust towards myself for living with a man who is snoring and who's smell I don't like in any moment.
I forgive myself that I have not allowed and not accepted myself to live with a man who is snoring and who is not always smelling nice but with who it is practical possible to live with.


I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I have to do something with the man and for that I need to like his smell always and for that he must not snore, instead of seeing that I am living here with m to walk my process towards myself by bringing all points back to self that I seperated myself from.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to seperate myself from my reaction on a person who is not always smelling nice.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to seperate myself from my reactions on a person who is snoring or from my reactions on the sound of snoring.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to seek for an experience of relief after writing this s.f. which is not coming.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to use the experience of relief as a measure of yes or no living with m. (verder blog 2).

 I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not yet be able to feel comfortable with somebody around me because I live in constant fear of being attacked or being seen.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to live in constant fear of being attacked or being seen.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to live in constant fear of being attacked or being seen by myself, when I see myself reflected in other people around me, seeing myself being not self-honest.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to live in constant fear of seeing myself, not being self-honest, and for this attacking myse;f for not being self-honest.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to feel sad because I believe I am not able to stand and live a life that I want in a world that I experience as unsafe, with people that I mostly experience as unsafe which activate the fear inside myself for not being able to speak as myself, to direct myself as self and to have enough money to support myself to live a life alone, supporting myself and others to stand up in this.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I am not able to stand and a live a life that I want in a world that I experience as unsafe, with people that I mostly experience as unsafe.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to experience the world and most people as unsafe, which I use as an excuse to not stand up and live the life that I want.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to let exist the experience of the world and most people as unsafe as a trigger-point within me, which triggers the fear of living the live that I want, supporting myself and others to stand up as self and directing self to live a life alone and to have enough money to be able to live a life alone as what is best for all, as a living example.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear to not have enough money to support myself to live alone in/as (a) life that I want as what is best for all.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear loneliness so much which makes me hesitating to stand up and live the life that I want as what is best for all.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to let exist fear of loneliness within me as an excuse to not stand up as self and live a life alone as what is best for all.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that me living alone is what is best for all.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that living with m is what is best for all.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to use the question what is best for all as an excuse to stay busy with this question and possible option of leaving or not leaving, which is an excuse to not change as myself in the situation I live in.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to want to change the situation instead of changing myself.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to create an outerly safe environment as the house is 'against the world', which is not safe inside by living together in a situation that we both do not want.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to feel not safe inside myself.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to seperate myself from being safe inside myself as myself which has the consequence that I have to find peace outside myself in the environment or another person.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to be afraid of standing alone in the world which I experience as unsafe.

Corrective actions:
I took action by speaking to m about the situation and brought forward what is really going on inside myself about our communication. As an answer to this he did the same, he spoke honestly about his experience of communicating in the house with me. We came to the conclusion that we do both not want to live together in this way because we want to communicate completely different. He spoke honestly about his 'opinion' about desteni and my participation in it, and about me as a living example, which I have not been as myself as became very clear in his words (which I already experienced of course). He doesnot want to participate within desteni when he sees my behaviour, and he thinks it will never be possible to bring this in the world.
To me became very clear that this is what I experienced the whole year, that he is not seeing what I am speaking about and that he is not seeing into himself. This is what is making me reacting which makes me not a living example of who I am as life.

One thing I experience directly after m honestly speaking about me and desteni is:
 peace, silence.
I immediately thought that it is not possible to live in one house anymore.
For a week I investigated the possibility to both go live alone again. All the fears, of lonelyness, having not enough money,'not 'finding' another man. I wrote out the whole concept of living alone for myself, how it will be better for both of us, how this will force both of us to finally see ourselves, to stand up as ourselves. No silence anymore, it became busy again, coming forward out of having doubts about what to do.

When and as I see myself having doubts again about making the right decission, I stop,I breathe. I realise that we are already walking this point and the outcome will become clear. I realise that it's necessary to first walk the mind before I am able to stand as self as life, stable in a situation as what I am living in now. Only by walking the mind first I can become one and equal as myself including the mind. I can not skip this part as this is seperating myself from (this part of) the mind as myself, believing that I am already constant as myself. Within this believing I create backchat and secret mind thoughts, coming forward out of blame of every point inside myself that I expose which is not yet constant as myself. This is sabotaging and abusing myself, m and the situation.
This walking together with m in the house is making me able to become stable in and as myself; It is not realistic to expect myself to be stable while walking the process, as walking the process itself is what I am becoming stable in as myself, step by step, breath by breath.

I realize that I am creating doubts again because I am so fucking scared to stand alone in this world, walking into the focus of the mind, where the mind as an illusion burns itself down by becoming one and equal to it; as what is best for all. I am scared that I will follow this way of the mind and loose everything for nothing.

This morning, after writing the whole solution of living alone as the best option, I wrote very small and I asked myself: Why isn't this living possible with m in the house? And there came no answer. Isn't this because of z, the other man? Silence. Isn't this because I want one more time an experience, of having another house, seeing z one more time, starting something with a man participating within desteni; just the 'one more time' experience? Silence.
First time, finally silence. No answers of the mind. It reminded me of the tekst about Bernard who asked the White Light: Why didn't you create a world that is best for All? And there was no answer. The White Light disappeared.

First time no answer of the mind.
And this is what I am going to walk. I write him in here officially. I still am first renter, if I decide it will stop than it stops. That's how it is, that are the rules of the house-corporation. I told m I don't want him to go; and when he will stay, this is how it is, I cannot give him more 'rights' about the house.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not be able to be a living example as myself to m as I wanted to be, which makes him doubting what I within desteni am standing as; which makes him not wanting to live and participate within desteni.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to feel quilty about being a bad living example of what I within desteni am standing as, which makes me a bad living example of the destenigroup.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I am a bad living example as myself and as the destenigroup instead of seeing that m doesnot want to face himself, which he projects on me participating within desteni.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to make myself responsible for the reason why m doesnot want to work with the tools of desteni by believing that I am na bad living example, instead of seeing that m has his own excuses to not yet want to participate actively by seeing into self. He has his own reasons that only make sense for him; I cannot see into this and I cannot change this.

I have to accept that m is not participating within desteni, and I am. I stop pushing him, I push myself. I stop my reactions on him and take it back to self when he is speaking from this point of self-dishonesty. Within this I learn to stand in this without reactions. It is exactly as the situation I grew up in. Now I am seeing what is going on, I am able to stop my reactions as I understand that I no longer need to doubt myself because I cannot believe what the other person (mama, m) is saying.
When and as I see myself participating in pushing m, I stop, I breathe. I realize that I am pushing m in something that I have to apply for myself. I use writing to see what I project on m what I need to apply myself 

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to start doubting myself because I cannot believe the self-dishonesty of mama, and because I cannot believe this, it must be true, and within this 'decission' that she must be true/right, fearing of loosing her, I doubt myself; I loose self-trust.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to doubt myself by believing the dishonesty of mama.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to start reacting on m when he is speaking in self-dishonesty because I am scared to loose myself in reactions which is also self-dishonest, which is coming forward out of old pain of believing mama and loosing my self.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to do exactly the same as what I am scared of when I react on the self-dishonesty of m; I leave myself in this reactions/dishonesty by believing that I have to explain him that he is self-dishonest at the moment, and within this explaining I give myself away to the mind, believing again that the mind is true/real and I am not, which makes me so angry.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I have to stop m speaking self-dishonest by trying to explain him that he is self-dishonest, which makes myself self-dishonest at the moment, instead of seeing that I have to stop my own reactions.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to become the opposite of a living example as myself by trying to explain to m that he is not self-honest because at that moment within this reaction I am not self-honest myself.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to blame m of being not self-honest and seeing in his words that he believes that he is honest, not knowing what self-honesty is.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe myself that I am self-honest by being honest, not knowing what self-honesty is because I do not know what self is.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I do not know what self is.
I as the mind do not want to live with m, and I as the mind am blaming myself and m for staying in this situation.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to blame myself and m for staying in this situation which becomes an excuse to sabotage the situation.

Corrective statements:

When and as I see myself participating in blame, abuse and sabotage I stop, I breathe. I realize that, no matter if I do or do not want to live in this situation with m, I will not apply blame, abuse and sabotage towards life, not in any situation. This has nothing to do with the situation I live in and this has everything to do with treating your neighbour as you want to be treated yourself.

The point of selfresponsibility is the point that I face everywhere around me in the world at the moment. No-one wants to take things back to self, wants even to see inside self and take this possibility, that all the words we speak are about self, in consideration.
I am the one who is doing this at the moment, supported in a group that is working together in this under the name Desteni.

When and as I see myself participating in a reaction on m, being perplexed when he is speaking or behaving in dishonesty, I stop, I breathe. I do not allow myself to react on m. I realize that I have to face something inside myself in this reaction on him, and I have to stop this reaction inside myself. I breathe and stop talking. I say to m, I cannot speak right now, maybe later, and I walk away. I do not allow myself to stay and start blaming m for a point that is coming up inside myself. When I am alone, I start writing to see what is going on inside myself, why I am reacting on m being self-dishonest and apply s.f. on this.

Most of time I want something from him, and when he is speaking self-dishonest, it is not possible to get this from him and I have to do it myself. This is standing alone. And because I fear this, I want him to do what I fear so that I do not need to really stand alone. This is what is making me reacting and this is what is making me wanting another man, which makes me unsatisfied with living with m in the house. In each situation I have to see and write out what specific reaction is going on.
This is a first step to stop my reactions inside myself.

Word:
Safe

Defenition:
adjective
1. secure from liability to harm, injury, danger, or risk: a safe place.
2. free from hurt, injury, danger, or risk: to arrive safe and sound.
3. involving little or no risk of mishap, error, etc.: a safe estimate.
4. dependable or trustworthy: a safe guide.
5. careful to avoid danger or controversy: a safe player; a safe play.

Origin:

1250–1300; (adj.) Middle English sauf, saf < Anglo-French saf, Old French sauf < Latin salvus intact, whole; (noun) late Middle English save, orig. derivative of save1 , assimilated to the adj.; compare salvation

Compare salvation; than I understand why I feel not safe as I experienced before anymore as I know that there is no salvation possible from an outside source. The only 'salvation' is me standing up as myself for a world that is best for all.

Positive/negatiove charge:
Positive, as I felt save in the illusion of salvation that I created as believe that I am save within my destiny.
Negative, as save can feel like being locked in a safe, a locker, safe in the locker as the mind.

New defenition:
Being self-honest in every moment which gives self-trust; within self-trust I experience myself as safe in every moment as I stay in breath, not reacting on the world around me.

2012 - MEN - searching for The One to bring me to a higher level

Let's write about men.
For a long time I let myself distract by men. By willing a man, not willing a man, and when the man is here, by the man himself, wanting him or wanting him to go away. In my head is a picture of me and a man in a perfect relation. Speaking openly about our process inside, living our 'own life' but...yes but what? Actually I don't know what else except living our own life and sometimes having sex. This is the picture that I created. And actually I don't know what to speak about, so I created the picture of living our own life. Sometimes having sex? Yes sometime. Very sometime. Which has also stopped because I don't know how to have sex anymore. So living our own life is what has left.
In the mean time I experience jealousy on other copples that I see participating in desteni. Man and woman both walking the process and sharing this. Of course I don't know if and how they share this. If I see a happy picture I believe they share themselves openly to each other. Maybe they are also struggling with this, maybe they also have to walk it all alone. It must be, everybody stands alone. punt.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to be jealous at other copples that I see where both man and woman are participating within desteni.

I make something of this, participating within desteni. I have to live as myself, and I stand for the principle of oneness and equality. With a group of human beings we are walking this process to make this principle reality in this world, the group is called desteni.
If I see a handsome young man, participating within desteni, this feeling of 'a possibility to be with the one' is coming up. Within this I believe that I myself am still 20 lol. That I can be with a man like that, and at the moment I believe that I am not and I should not let go of this chance to be with such man someday. So I must leave the house immediately, being alone and ready for when this chance is coming......
This is a complete distraction, waiting and searching for a better chance, for The One. It can always be better. This became clear to me when I was listening to the video

Journeys into the Afterlife - A Master in-Waiting - Part 12

(It is given to me as an eqafe-gift which is supportive, thanks).
In the dimensions we/they were spending so much time to reach another level, whatever that may be. And when you are not able to keep the same frequency as the state you were in, you fall back to the bottom. When I write this it's what I experience here in my past relationships. I tried to reach the next level by searching for that specific man, and when I made it sometimes, I was never able to stay in this. Like I was not able to maintain in the rush of energy; I could not stay within that frequency? So I fall down, back to earth lol. Back to where I started alone. Or I was with a man that I did not experience as 'good' enough, so the frequency seems too low. And than I went away. Back to where I started alone.

What a huge fuck up. And I did not realize how deep I was envolved within this reaching for something higher, because I never stept into a religion or something like that. I knew this searching for a man was blocking me but I didnot see how. So I only could go on searching, inside and outside myself. The illusion of the perfect relationship became my religion, and that is actually where all religion are based on, so I was in a religion. I investigated it widely so my illusion was very close to what is called an agreement; but the fact that I was longing for something better or higher and distracted by it makes it a religion. Not able to really stand alone, Here as I am in reality, directing myself as Self.
What do I make of men within this? I make them some kind of status-symbol. Which is not equal. And this is what I become angry at, that the man is not standing equal to/as me. I am not standing equal to the man. I put him on a platform, using him for a personal goal to 'reach a higher level', and when it doesnot work like that I go away or the man goes away.

Without this, I don't know how to live. How to express, what to do, who I am. Unconscious, all my life was about this reaching for a higher level.
I experience a lot of shame within myself of what I have become. This shame I suppressed in my body.
I am using some oligoplant products (herbal/mineralproducts) to support the body to get this structures to the surface to see them and forgive them myself, so I can go into my body. It goes together with tiredness, My body doesnot feel comfortable. The shame forms a layer above the structures that I also suppressed. Yes, this made me really sick the last 10 years. I almost destroyed (part of) my body within this suppression.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to suppress myself completely by suppressing the shame of what I have become as another layer on the suppression of what I have become.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to feel better because I believe I am better than other people who are openly living their program, instead of seeing that the only thing that I am better in is in hiding and suppressing myself to not experience the shame about what I have become.

The physical has alway stopped me from completely going into the rush of energy, into 'the higher level'. I simply was not able to maintain  in this for a long time. If I did that, I immediately got more physical complaints. Which forced me to go back into myself and investigate this as far as possible. Because I could not live with this physical complaints, actually with no physical complaint at all. (Also within this investigating I got stuck. This is something for the blog about the system-design of inspiration).
My body was/is bringing me down. And the man I live with is bringing me down. Which I as the mind don't like. Because within this I experience the illusions and excuses that I have allowed and accepted to exist within myself; which is what I have allowed and accepted to exist in the world. A complete fucked up mind-system, always reaching for a goal outside us as a higher level, as something better than we already live in. And within this, we destroy everything that is living on earth, included our own physical.

Is it that I/we don't want to change? What I see within myself and people around me is that we don't know how to change and that we believe that it doesnot make sense. As I experience myself at the moment, I don't know how to live, who I am, what to do. It's a complete unknown area. Which is reflected in the ouside world, where nobody is starting because nobody is starting, staying in control within the life we know.
Playing domino, everything is falling because one thing is falling, passed from generation to generation. If one domino-stone keeps standing, the whole row stops falling. The new generation can start standing (altough within a falling world); the old generation is complete confused because the falling has stopped. What to do?!
I keep on stopping the falling within myself, sorting out the confusion. (The mind projects this falling as getting to a higher level so I stop reaching for a goal outside me as getting to a higher level). Until I am able to stand as myself as breath. Until I am Here.

Do you want to stop falling? Bring yourself down to be able to stand up:
http://www.desteniiprocess.com/

Freaky

This is freaky.
I don't know how to go on, what to do, what to write. And within this, I do nothing. There is enough to do, but I cannot come to anything. It scares me. It's like I am loosing my expression. But I never had an expression as life, only as the mind. So maybe I am loosing my expression as the mind.

What's the Agreement? Cleaning the bloodlines

Being angry all the time to the person I live with.
Not able to stop, as I see that I follow the same thought every time again, which starts running as a program by every trigger-point.
Applying self-forgiveness is not enough. So what is going on here?
I believe that I am stuck in this, and for I believe this, I attack myself for being so stupid to got stuck in this. And I was busy with this attack as backchat, applying s.f. on me being stupid etc.
Actually, what is before this? Before this I believe something.

What is the agreement I made here in the house?
I made the agreement that we share the house if financial possible. Within this m is able to make a living here in holland, having a job and a place to live to start with, and I am able to stand up in myself while living together with someone, making myself independant of the other person which is in the end independant of the mind. Stopping reactions inside myself. And during this process making myself financial more stable than before.
The agreement is not to stay together forever. I am clear about this from the beginning. I want to live as equals, and finally I see clearly that I do not want to have a full agreement with someone who is not applying s.f., who doesnot know what the mind is. It's not his fault he doesnot know this, absolutely not, there is no information available in his language so how can he know.
I believed that within this it's somehow my responsability to keep him breathing. And within this believe I got stuck in this situation. Which is not. It is my responsibility to give him the chance to make his own living as far as I am able to, and to support him in this. Within this he can stay on his own feet practically, and this is a starting-point to live. And I can stay on my own feet by stopping my reactions inside myself, which is a starting-point to live. This makes us roommates, taking care of the practicall living in the house together, and within this supporting each other to stand up, each in our own stage of process.
That's it for the moment. No relationships, no sexual arrousing. Standing alone.

So taking this back to self. The angryness is coming up again this morning, not projected on the other person but on myself. For everything I have allowed and accepted in myself. For the whole fuck-up created by Anu in this world. I can be angry, but I am still responsible to stop this abusive life. I can be angry, I let the angryness merge inside myself and within this it disappears; it becomes a strength to stand up in. I do not have to run away for my own angryness anymore, it's not killing me (or others). I can breathe within it. It's a stop, till here no further. No further with this abusive life of allowing myself to be suppressed within a belief. No matter where or with who I live.

The question that is coming up from time till time is, how could I have been able to stand up in this before? When Anu was still in control? We gave him that control, and here I miss something. I do not see how I could have stand up in this earlier. Which means, I do not see how this enslavement started.
Is this question relevant? In the end yes. For the moment, no. I stop this being enslaved and within this it becomes clear how I am able to stand up in this. Which will probably clearify how I could have done this anytime, as every human being. Stopping the guilt, which is coming forward out of polarity.

This belief of being stuck in this is coming forward out of the supression of myself as a female. And this was veiling the real suppression, being supressed by the mind-system. Keeping me busy with relation-ships issues. Enslaved to relationship-issues. Which is influencing the thyroid-gland. Suppressing the speaking up of the female; believing that she has to take care for the child, for the man, for life for everyone except for herself. I am taking the oligo-plant fucus. The oligo-plant is removing the blockage between intra-cellulair and extra-cellulair. It's actually recovering the communication inside the body on a specific area, in this case on the hormonal area. The thyroid-gland has a central function in the hormonal area and in the whole homeostase. First two days I started extremely reacting on everything m was doing; after this we both saw, this is not it, this is not how we want to live. Take it back to self. Me standing up as self, speaking for what is best for all, responsible for life as myself but not responsible for breathing someone alive but myself. I can only breathe myself alive. I am not an oxygen apparatus.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I am an oxygen apparatus.

Which is actually the navel-string. Mother to child. Which repeats itself in relationships.

The thyroid works mainly on the mitichondrien. Mitochondrien are the little organs that regulate the energy in the cell; burning from nutrients gives energie. The mitochondrien are 100 % passed by the dna of the mother. (The nucleus are 50% passed by the dna of the father and 50% by the dna of the mother). Within this, there must be a bunch of loaded energy as information inherited within this cells, as this is never cleaned up. On physical level: the free radicals which pollute the body, works on the mitochondrien, so free radicals/pollution as pollution of thoughts, feelings and emotions also works on the mitochondrien).
This is what I experience as the suppressing of woman, the loaded energy inherited by the mother. It is to me to clean the cells from the loading. Which is happening at the moment. The loading is coming up, the information of the cell is given free by recovering the communication between intra- and extra-cellulair. The fucus supports the free-giving of the cells from the loaded information in the mitochondrien, especially located in coherence with the thyriod-gland. (Oligo-plant contains minerals and trace elements which are directing the enzymatic functions which are directing the whole (organ)functions of the organism).

Directing the enzymatic functions within the organism which is supporting direction myself as Life.
It is to me to see the information, to stop the reactions on it, as this is attacking myself on the information that is located within the cells, inherited by - in the this case - the mother, and to apply self-forgiveness on it and stand up in it.
To free the body from the loaded information, so the body can function as oneness as life by free communication between the cells, by free communication intra- and extracellulair, directing the processes that are necessary as life. Same within as without; I free myself from loaded information, so I can function as oneness as life by free communication between me and other life, by free commonunication within and without myself, directing the processes that are necessary as life as breath.

This is what I see as my responsibility. To clean the bloodlines within myself.
And this is what I am working on for years and years, not passing this through by giving birth to children but stopping this information within myself, cleaning the blood-lines. To stand up in myself and give birth to myself as live from the physical.
Within Desteni I finally find the support and information to complete this process, as before there was always something missing: MYSELF!

That's the Agreement: cleaning the bloodlines within myself, which makes me able to stand up as Self as Life as what is best for All Life.

2012 - system-design of Belief - Love, Light, Depression

I belief that I am a soul.

Within the mind I know that this is not real, as I read ofcourse the desteni-material about the soulconstruct etc. BUT....I notice within myself that I am not letting go of the love I believe to feel for a boy that I didnot see for more than a year. Actually this is all that I ever believed that 'counts', the love I feel for a boy, most of times at distance, so not in reality but in the mind. I knew ofcourse in reality it will be different, there will be a lot of annoyance and at distance there is not, so I called that 'pure'. I believed that at distance the love could stay pure. And it was pure when there was some kind of soul-connection, which made it possible to keep the love alive at distance, because also at distance there is a connection between us. I can feel what the other person feel, I can feel his reactions on my sms-es. And I still don't know what this is, did I feel my own reactions? I believed that I could feel this because I am sensitive. Which means, I became my feelings and emotions.
So, let's take myself by the hand, as this is one of the largest veils that I want to hold on to (as far as I can see). Let's unveil it slowly but surely, not hard on myself but breath by breath, step by step walking it through.

Thought:
At distance the love can stay pure.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to think "at distance the love can stay pure".

Trigger-point:
Living with m in the house.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to connect living with m in the house to the thought "at distance the love can stay pure".
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to let exist living with m in the house as a trigger-point within me which triggers the thought "at distance the love can stay pure".

Type of thought:
Belief

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to belief that at distance the love can stay pure.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to let exist belief in me by participating in the thought "at distance the love can stay pure".

Other components:
Emotion:
Sadness

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to connect the thought "at distance the love can stay pure" to an emotion of sadness.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to participate in an emotion of sadness.

Feeling:
Blessedness

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to connect the thought "at distance the love can stay pure" to a feeling of blessedness.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to participate in a feeling of blessedness.

Why do I connect the thought "at distance the love can stay pure" to an emotional experience of sadness?
I experience sadness because I believe that I love a man who is at distance but we are not able to live together. I know that he 'loved me back'. I blame myself for starting to live with m in the house before I found out if the man who is at distance and I are able to live together. Actually I know that we are not able to live together, but...but I want a relationship at distance; I believe that I am able to live alone and him at distance, seeing each other 3-4 times a year and for the rest live our own life. I made this some kind of ideal, as if I am able to live like that I am standing alone. What are we doing that 3-4 times a year that we see each other? Having sex, which was actually an experience of heaven with him. I believe that I am able to have sex 3-4 times a year without having more contact as I have seen that he is not able to have more contact with me. So I believe that I am able to have sex 3-4 times a year without having anymore contact, living my own life and him living his own life.
I experience sadness because I believe that I was not strong enough to wait for him and live like this. I was afraid that he would walk away again and I could not handle that. So why do I believe that I can live alone, seeing the man 3-4 times a year, having sex as an experience of heaven, and having enough with this? Why do I believe that I can have sex with a man without being able to express myself with words towards him?
It's like I skip the words, so I skip myself as the living word, I pass over myself, which I see is a synonym of miss, so that's why I miss myself so much.
Within this I see directly why I experience missing him so much, as within this believe of being able to commit myself to a man for having 3-4 times a year an experience of heaven by sharing sex without being able to express myself in words, I pass over myself, I miss myself as the living word completely.
I believe that having sex with a man is enough for me; me within living words I can share with other people. I believe that I can share myself as an expression within sex, without being able to share myself as the living word. I pass over myself, I miss myself completely. Here I see where I loose myself in every relationship till now, as I pass over myself, so I feel passed over by the man and put 'being together with the man' on the first place. And because I am not yet able to express myself as the living word, and I do not want to live alone or loose the man, I have sex as the only expression that I am able to to the man, using this as glue/connection between the man and me. Which makes me dependent on having sex with the man so on the man (so on the mind).

(This is leading to the design of angryness, me being angry at m which is coming forward out of being angry at myself for not being self-honest; but where am I not self-honest as the starting-point of the living together with m was also not self-honest, so I believe that I am not honest because I started living with m while it was not clear between me and the man at distance which who'm I donot have communication in reality for a year; this believe keeps me prison in being angry if I do not see behind this; is this the self-honest point or is this an honest point in/as the mind? Wasn't the point already here before living with m, believing in the love with the man at distance, already self-dishonest, which gave a new start in dishonesty with m? Let's unveil the belief-system that I created and see what is possible.
It is also leading to the design of addiction as addiction to sex; which I mainly walked through last year when the man at distance stayed at distance so no sex; I started again with sex with m, same pattern. But in this situation I can direct myself as I see in myself that I do not want to have sex with m when I am angry at myself for not being self-honest; I am not forcing/seducing myself to have sex as a substitute of expression of words anymore).

http://youtu.be/fk7_J5P7hsI - How Purpose Sealed us into Enslavement - interview by Sunette Spies

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that the feelings I experience for another person are real as who I am.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not want to give up this feeling for another person.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to have difficulties with giving up an ideal of living
life in harmony with a man I (believe I) am 'supposed' to live with.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to just start another relationship after noticing that me and the man are probably not able to live together without getting to know m before living together.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to just step into this relationship with m, believing that I could step out anytime, instead of seeing that this stepping in as having sex does have consequenses.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not be able to getting to know m before living together as I felt so lonely that I was not able to stand alone in this.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not be able to come out of this experience with the other man without m.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I am not able to come out of this experience with the other man without m.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to have difficulties with giving up my socalled life-purpose as living together with the man I love and who loves me as a match, and within this standing up as myself.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to miss myself by skipping myself with having sex as an expression of myself without being able to express myself in words as who I am, which makes sex a substitute for myself as the expression as the living word.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to make myself dependent on sex as a substitute of the expression of myself as the living word, which makes me dependent on the man I have (had) sex with.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I need sex, so that I need a man to have sex with, to be able to express myself.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that love at distance is pure, instead of seeing that I expreienced this as pure because it was only existing in my mind, so pure without intervention of influences from anything or anyone, which is actually me having a relation with my own mind.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that this relation with my own mind is pure.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that this pureness is real, instead of seeing that this is an experience of light as the white light, pure light, which is not really existing.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to protect this pure love within my mind.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that this pure love is enough for me to live with at distance.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not see that this pure love was the connection in/as the mind between me and the other or even me and myself as mind.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I can only live with someone that I experience this pure love for.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not know how to live with someone that I do not experience this pure love for, which actually means that I do not know how to live with someone that I do not have a connection with in/as the mind.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not believe that I am able to stop believing this pure love is real.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not believe that I am able to live without the experience of this pure love, so I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not believe that I am able to live without the mind, without the white light.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to make myself dependant on the mind and on 'God' the white light.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to have difficulties with giving up on everything that I believed, which is actually forgiving myself for believing in this everything as existing as the mind.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to want to hold on to this experience of pure love.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to want to hold on to the mind, and at the same time judging and rejecting myself for being and becoming a mindsystem as I see in my projections to other people.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to want to experience this pure love so that I do not have to experience the hate inside myself against me becoming a system, wanting to hold on to the seperation.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to want to hold on to the seperation so that I can experience this pure love with a special person.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not believe that this experience of pure love is coming forward out of seperation, as this experinece of pure love 'feels like being one'.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that this feeling of being one is real, instead of seeing that this is the feeling of being one with/as the white light, which is suppressing myself as life completely.

Why do I connect the thought "at distance the love can stay pure" to a feeling of blessedness
When I feel this love at distance I feel blessed, as this experience of pure love as light feels like being blessed that I met someone who I feel this love for or even share it, although it is at distance.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I am blessed with experiencing this feeling of pure love for a person, although it is at distance.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that this pure love is real as light as life, instead of seeing that this is keeping me enslaved in the experience of light as the mind as the purpose of my life, which is suppressing myself as life as breath being Here.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to become enslaved to the purpose of my life as a consciousness system.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to experience that if I am stopping this feeling of love, that I am breaking the rules, breaking the contract that I made with myself, as this is everything that I am holding on to during all the hard times in life.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to feel like I betray myself and the person at distance if I stop this feeling of love to the person.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I am good at holding on to the purpose of my life, that I know what I have to do in life on earth, instead of seeing that with knowing this and being sure of this I keep myself enslaved to the mind-consciousness system.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not know if I am able to live without the mind consciousness system.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to worry about the world going down, and at the same time not believing that I am able to stand up as life, which is the reason that I worry about the world going down, as I worry about me going down, unable to stop the enslavement in/as the mind.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to wnat to hide in a corner and live my life without doing all these things that I experience as so hard and difficult and scary, in a world that I experience as so hard and difficult and scary.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to hate the world we live in, which is the same as hating myself as how I live now.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to hate myself as the way I live now.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to want to experience this pure love as light to not experience my self-hate.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to be angry at myself for stopping the possability to experience this pure love for teh man at distance or another person by living together with m.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not want to stop this experience or possability for this experience of pure love as light for another person.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to create and believe this illusion of pure love as light to survive in this world that I don't like to live in.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not like to live in this world.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to not like other people, or most of other people because I am not able to speak as myself in the company of most of other people.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to create this experience of love and light because I notice a tendency of being depressed inside myself, being afraid that I will get stuck in a real depression, not coming out of this and being labled and threat as depressed.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear being labled as depressed and being suppressed by this lable, and for this hiding my periods of depression.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to hide the expression of me being depressed, which is suppressing an expression of myself, although it is as the mind.

Corrective statements:
When and as I see myself participating in an experience of  'pure love' at distance I stop, I breathe. I put my two hands together to bring myself Here in the physical.
I realize that I experience a feeling of being connected to 'the light' within/through the mind, which I define as pure. I realize that this is not being one and equal as myself as life, it's an experience of seperation in/as the mind. It will bring forward the opposite if I go into this, as it is created in polarity. The opposite I experience/define as depression, which I create myself by believing in love and light, and by believing that I am not part of life if I do not experience this pure love.
So I stop, I breathe. I do not need this feeling of pure love as it is an experience of the mind, keeping me enslaved in/as the mind.

Word:
Pure Love

Defenition pure:
Clear, free from anything of a different,

Defenition love:
love   /lʌv/ Show Spelled [luhv] Show IPA noun, verb, loved, lov·ing.

noun
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.

verb (used with object)

15. to have love or affection for: All her pupils love her.
16. to have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person).
17. to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in: to love music.
18. to need or require; benefit greatly from: Plants love sunlight.
19. to embrace and kiss (someone), as a lover.

Synonyms

1. tenderness, fondness, predilection, warmth, passion, adoration. 1, 2. Love, affection, devotion all mean a deep and enduring emotional regard, usually for another person. Love may apply to various kinds of regard: the charity of the Creator, reverent adoration toward God or toward a person, the relation of parent and child, the regard of friends for each other, romantic feelings for another person, etc. Affection is a fondness for others that is enduring and tender, but calm. Devotion is an intense love and steadfast, enduring loyalty to a person; it may also imply consecration to a cause. 2. liking, inclination, regard, friendliness. 15. like. 16. adore, adulate, worship.

Origin:

before 900; (noun) Middle English; Old English lufu, cognate with Old Frisian luve, Old High German luba, Gothic lubō; (v.) Middle English lov ( i ) en, Old English lufian; cognate with Old Frisian luvia, Old High German lubōn to love, Latin lubēre (later libēre ) to be pleasing; akin to lief
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In all these defenitions and synonyms it is about a feeling of affection.
With pure before love, this is a clear feeling of affection, free from anything of a different.
 
Positive/negative charge:
Positive - as a pure, light feeling, which I could only feel at distance; as soon as the person is here it is mixed with a lot of reactions, so not pure anymore, so actually I cannot feel love than anymore. Which shows that it is a feeling in/as the mind which can be easily disturbed, so not constant.
It is a feeling of 'everything will be alright' which I charged as positive, it gives me an experience of rest and peace.
Negative - as love of onother person who loves me within feelings, which gives me the experience of being stuck in the attention of that love, directed to me instead of directed to self. 
 
New defenition:
To forgive oneself all reactions in/as the mind, until there is no reaction, no judgement, no separation left from self as all life, which makes able to see self in all life around and stand equal to it.

(Pure is 'free from anything of a different' so pure love has the same defenition as love)


 
 

2012 - system-design of Desire and Need

I need to be right.
I need to speak to let me hear, to show that I am right.

I feel so aggrieved, verongelijkt, 'unequaled' inside myself that I need to be right and for that I need to speak. Which makes me so very tired, which is another system-design.
This will express in reactions, which is not a self-expression but an expression of/as the mind. Within this I try to convince somebody. I try to convince the other that I am right.
Why do I need to be right?
Because I believe that I am 'wrong' all the time. I have the experience to be wrong, fault all the time. Which indicates that I am not one and equal as myself, I am in polarity. So I need to be right, ik wil gelijk hebben, because I am unequal within myself, ik ben ongelijk in/als mezelf, and within this unequal to the other person.

Thought:
I need to be right.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to think that I need to be right.

Trigger-point:
m who is having an emotional reaction on me going out with a friend.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to connect m who is having an emotional reaction on me going out with a friend to the thought "I need to be right".
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to let exist m who is having an emotional reaction on me going out with a friend as a trigger-point within me, which triggers the thought "I need to be right".

Type of thought:
Need

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to need to be right.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to let exist need inside me by participating in th ethought "I need to be right".

Other components:
Emotion:
Injury, verongelijking

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to connect the thought "I need to be right" to an emotion of injury/verongelijking.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to participate in an emotion of injury/verongelijking.

Why do I connect an emotion of injury to the thought "I need to be right?"
I believe that I have to speak to m when m is blaming me for something out of emotions.
I do not believe that he sees what he is doing; that he sees that it's something about himself that he blames on me. And when he is not seeing into self, we cannot speak in equality. Every conversation is going difficult as I am trying to 'tell him' something and he is only trying to protect himself for my convince without listening to the words I speak. We are not expressing ourselves as self, we are reacting in/as the mind.
Because I know he is not working with the tools and because I hear in his words that he is not understanding that he is speaking about himself, I start to feel unsafe. Why? What feels so unsafe in this for me, if I know that he is speaking about himself? Is it the attack of the mind? Is it that he has to affirm me in the words I speak? Do I still believe him, that the words he speaks are about me? Is this just it? That I believe all the time that the words another person is speaking are about me, and within this I start to believe that the words I speak are about him, or actually that I have the right to speak these words about him, and within this believing I start to convince him with and from my words, so actually I start to convince him to be (like) me, because I want to convince him that the words I speak - that are actually about myself - are about him, so that he is what I speak about myself.
Within this I started to believe that the words of mam are about me, and so I started to believe that I am her, which I don't want to be, so I don't want to be Here (within another lesson I saw that I connected I am here to I am her). Which is unequal with myself, not being Here, which makes me feel aggrieved, injured, unequaled, and so I try to convince m to make him equal with me so that I can be Here, instead of making myself equal with myself/with my own reactions in which I can be Here. I do exactly the same as what is done to me. I did become her.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to need m to be able to be Here.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that the words m speaks are about me.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that the words mam speaks/has spoken are about me.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to feel unsafe when m or mam does not see that the words they speak are about themselves.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to need m or mam to affirm me in the words I speak.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to feel aggrieved, injured, verongelijkt because I believe that the words m and mam speak are about me, and within this I become him/her, instead of being Here.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to try to convince m with my words, and within this doing exactly the same as mam did to me, trying to make me like her/trying to make him like me, to confirm ourselves in/as the mind to make the environment feel safe to be Here.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to need another person to confirm me to make myself feel safe to be Here.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to need to be right to make the environment safe to be Here by trying to get the affirmation of the m and mam, the affirmation of me being right, because I am feeling all wrong/verongelijkt inside myself by separating myself from myself being one and equal as myself by believing that the words of m/mam are about me.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to forget to breathe when I am trying to convince m, and within this I am not Here but in the mind, which makes me feel unsafe, and for that I need to convince m to affirm me to make me feel safe.

Coming forward out of this is the desire to have sex to feel alive. When m is not seeing into self I believe it's not safe enough to have sex with him, and so I need to confirm him that I am right, so that he is seeing that his words are about himself and not about me so we can have sex.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to desire to have sex.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to need sex to feel alive.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I have to confirm m that the words he speaks are about him, so that he is seeing into self so that it is safe enough for me to have sex woith him to feel alive.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to be angry at m that he is not seeing into self because than I believe that we cannot have sex.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to be angry at m because I can also not have sex with another man because m is living here in the same house.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to be angry at m that he is not giving me an ooportunity to live via him by having sex or by having feelings for him which I don't have.

When and as I see myself participating in the need to be right while speaking with m I stop, I breathe. I put my two hands together to bring myself Here in the physical. I breathe again, to give myself time to become Here.
I realize that the unsafe feeling is because I am not really Here, but still in the mind, believing that m has to affirm me in/as the mind, otherwise he will eventually attack me or provoke me.
I realize that m cannot really attack or provoke me, he can only attack and provoke me in/as the mind. As long as I am Here in breath, nothing will happen. If I feel provoked by his words/behaviour of the mind, I stop, I breathe. I realize that he is speaking about himself and not wanting to see into this, and so he is trying to provoke me, so that I bacome angry at him and than he can blame me of attacking him, which gives the opportunity to escape from seeing into self. And within this I created another layer of judgement within myself by reacting in angryness, and so I also don't have to see inside myself as in the reactions that I experience as aggrieved/verongelijkt when m is provoking me. Actually I am aggrieved because I am not one and equal as myself by reacting on this, which enlarges the experience of feeling aggrieved.
When and as I do myself see going into reactions when I am speaking with m and something in his words or behaviour is provoking me, I stop, I breathe. I breathe again. I realize that I can stop my reactions any moment I want, this is all about me. The only reason that is keeping me away from this is the believe that I need to be right. Which is a believe in/as the mind, to keep me enslaved in/as the mind, to keep me away from seeing into the pain I experience by past memories of feeling aggrieved.
I breathe, and within this breathing I see what is best for all to do. I can stay in silence and listen to the words m speaks and I can walk away if I am not able to stay in breath in this moment in his company.
When I am alone I immediately start writing to see what is going on inside me, and within this I can apply self-forgiveness and embrace myself in the experience of feeling aggrieved.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear to be swept away by believing the words m and mam speak are about me, and within this believing I fear to disappear in the black hole that I created by separating myself from self, by believing that the words m and mam speak are about me.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to connect being swept away by believing the words m and mam speak are about me, and within this believing I fear to disappear in the black whoe that I created by separating myself from selfm by believing that the words m and mam speak are about me to fear, and thus I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear my own fear.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear to dissappear in the black hole.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to connect disappearing in the black hole to fear, and thus I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear my own fear.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that the black hole is real, instead of seeing that I created thsi black hole by myself by separating myself from self, by believing that the words that m and mam speak are about me.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to write the black hole as black whole, which indicates that the whole, everything is a black hole, and thus I don't want to be Here as I experience everything that I know as this black hole.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that what I know as life is really Life, and for that I don't want to be Here because I don't like that what I know as life because I experience this as a black hole, instead of seeing that this what I know, this what I experience as a black hole, is not real, and I don't have to go into that again to become alive.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I have, that I need to go into the black hole again to become alive, and for that I need to be right, instead of seeing that with believing that I need to be right I keep myself prison in this experience of the black hole, trying to convince m to make the black hole liveable, which is not possible as in the black hole there is no real Life possible.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to try to make the black hole liveable.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to ask m to become alive by trying to convince him, in which I am a living example of death, keeping me and him prison in this black hole, which feels very unsafe, for me and for him, and within this experience of feeling unsafe nothing will ever change as it feels too unsafe to change.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear the black hole, instead of seeing that the black hole is actually the whole life I know in/as the mind, which is the same as fear, and thus I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to FEAR MY OWN FEAR.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that I have to live in/as the mind because everybody is there, and if I am not there I am alone, instead of seeing that this is exactly what I am here, Al(l)one.
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to want to agree in and as the mind with m, mam and everybody around me, instead of seeing that this will leep me enslaved in/as the mind.

When and as I see myself participating in fear as in a feeling of unsafety, I stop, I breathe. I breathe again, as I realize that I am participating in/as the mind, which will always feel unsafe and where no life is possible. So I stop, I breathe. I put my two hands together to bring myself Here in the physical. As being Here in Breath is the only place where I can become alive, being safe one and equal as myself.

Word:
(to be) Right

Defenition:

right

   /raɪt/ Show Spelled [rahyt] Show IPA adjective, -er, -est, noun, adverb, verb

adjective

1. in accordance with what is good, proper, or just: right conduct.

2. in conformity with fact, reason, truth, or some standard or principle; correct: the right solution; the right answer.

3. correct in judgment, opinion, or action.

4. fitting or appropriate; suitable: to say the right thing at the right time.

5. most convenient, desirable, or favorable: Omaha is the right location for a meatpacking firm.

noun

18. a just claim or title, whether legal, prescriptive, or moral: You have a right to say what you please.

19. Sometimes, rights. that which is due to anyone by just claim, legal guarantees, moral principles, etc.: women's rights; Freedom of speech is a right of all Americans.

20. adherence or obedience to moral and legal principles and authority.

21. that which is morally, legally, or ethically proper: to know right from wrong.

22. a moral, ethical, or legal principle considered as an underlying cause of truth, justice, morality, or ethics.

Synonyms 1. equitable, fair, honest, lawful. 2. accurate, true. 4. fit, seemly. 5. proper. 10. obverse. 17. rightful. 21. morality, virtue, justice, fairness, integrity, equity, rectitude. 43. rightfully, lawfully, rightly, justly, fairly, equitably. 44.  appropriately, suitably.
Antonyms 1–5, 10, 21.  wrong.

Origin: before 900; (noun and adj.) Middle English; Old English reht, riht;  cognate with Dutch, German recht, Old Norse rēttr, Gothic raihts;  akin to Latin rēctus, Old Irish recht  law, Greek orektós  upright; (v.) Middle English righten, Old English rihtan,  cognate with Old Frisian riuchta, German richten, Old Norse rētta;  (adv.) Middle English; Old English rihte

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It's a word within polarity, with the origin of recht. The right to do something, say something etc. Right did come in with the polarity of the mind, to control the world in polarity.

Positive/negative charge:
positive charge as it gives me as the mind a feeling of relief when I believe that I do the 'right' thing; living in/as the mind always searching for the right way, and believing that I do things right, which is not giving space to another person as the other person is easily doing things wrong in my eyes. Not wolrdwide, there I can see the large perspective and equality within myself easily, but in the house I loose sight, as it seems to close to believe that it has nothing to do with me.

New defenition:
To use common sense to see as it is in reality